A prologue of Donkey Saga as a reflection.
Remember a tale about a father and his son who wanted to go to the land of the Middle of Nowhere by riding their donkey. They wanted to meet the banquet invitation from a great king of that land. At first, the father rode the donkey, while his son walked besides their donkey. As soon they arrived in Town A, the people there who saw it said, “How cruel the father is! He let his son walk, while he ride on the donkey.” They then stopped and swap the places. His son rode their donkey, while the father walked besides their donkey. When they arrived in Town B, the local resident who saw it said, “The prodigal son! He let his father walk, while he rode on the donkey.” They then stopped again, then rode their donkey together. When they arrived in Town C, the local resident who saw it said, “Really, the heartless people! How pity the donkey is! The donkey looked so heavy because ridden by two people.” They stopped again, then down from their donkey. They walked together, besides their donkey. When they arrived in Town D, the local resident who saw it said, “How stupid the father and son are! They have a donkey but they don’t even ride their donkey! Really, really stupid.” They stopped, then they rode the donkey. And so on, until finally they arrived in the land of the Middle of Nowhere.
Arriving there, they were very disappointed because the banquet time had passed. Then they sat contemplating the fate and said, “I wish we didn’t too many stops for listening to the words of the people. Of course, we wouldn’t be late arriving here. Of course, we’ve been able to meet the king. Of course, we’ve been able to be present at the banquet and get a gift from the king.” Finally they left empty-handed, failed to achieve their objectives.
Negative critics and commentators are actually not an important matter as long as you do not respond them. Once you are on the right track, both according to the religious laws and the state laws, then the problem lies not on you, but on the people themselves. So you do not have to feel responsible to respond and explain what you are doing or whatever your choice to those people. Because, once you respond to it, then your mind will always be affected by any criticisms and comments coming.
Once you are on the right track, both according to the religious laws and the state laws, then the problem lies not on you, but on the people themselves. So you do not have to feel responsible to respond and explain what you are doing or whatever your choice to those people.
If you respond to negative criticism on the issue of A, then it finished. It will appear negative criticisms again on the issue of B, and so on. If you constantly respond it, your problems can reach millions of Z and Z again. So the time of your life will be wasted just to respond and think regarding the unnecessary and unimportant things. You will only insert the unnecessary and unworthy problems into your life. Over time your mind gets stressed because too concerned about what others say about you. Whereas, you feel what you are doing is not a mistake and is on the right track. Eventually you will not achieve your goal of life because you are too busy focusing on what people say about you. You will fail and will not get anything in your life.
Remember! As long as your breath is still contained in your body and you still live in this world, then the criticisms and comments will always come and go. No matter how good you are, people will always find a way to criticize and comment on you. Because in this world, you will never find that everybody loves and supports you. Definitely, there will be those who do not like and do not support you. So the choice depends on your own. Do you want to feel peaceful and happy by freeing yourself from the behavior of the negative critics and commentators? Or do you want to live forever under pressure by allowing the negative critics and commentator enters your soul and mind?
No matter how good you are, people will always find a way to criticize and comment on you. Because in this world, you will never find that everybody loves and supports you.
The most important thing is to keep yourself away from feeling upset and angry about the behavior of such people. Because no matter how upset and angry you are, they will always be there and popping up around you. Like the saying goes, one die thousand grow, broken grew missing replace. So, do not waste your precious time and energy merely to anger and resentment toward such unimportant things. You better use your time and energy to always be focused and concentrate on achieving all the ideals and goals of your life. Ignore, don’t worry, don’t take it seriously, and ignore their negative criticism.
One way to free your soul and mind from resentment, anger and pressure feeling towards negative criticism and comments is to always understand and remember the “Donkey Saga” whenever you cope any negative critics and commentators. Then introspect into yourself to make sure of what you do is already on the right track, both according to your religious laws and your state laws. When everything is already on the right track, then the problem lies not on you, but on the negative critics and commentators. Dissatisfaction, envy, and jealousy can be a major cause why they prefer to spend the time to criticize and comment on other people in negative manner, rather than use the time to do something useful and worthwhile.
Read this article in Indonesian Language: Bebaskan Diri Anda dari Tukang Kritik Negatif.